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WHAT CLOSURE?

Story ID:10122
Written by:Frederick William Wickert (bio, link, contact, other stories)
Story type:Musings, Essays and Such
Location:Middleburgh New York USA
Year:1982
Person:Dominick
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WHAT CLOSURE?
By Fred Wickert


I keep hearing in the media over and over, the term “Closure.” The body when found, will bring closure. When the killer is sentenced it will bring closure. When the autopsy shows how they died it will bring the family some closure. When the body is retrieved from the crash it will bring closure.

Oh yeah? Says who? I don’t believe a word of it. Maybe I just don’t understand the word “closure” correctly. Maybe, but I don’t think so.

In the early 1980’s I lost an 18 year old boy. ( Our Echo ID #1337, DOMINICK WE LOVED YOU SO) It happened two weeks before he was to graduate from high school. We had his remains and they were buried in the cemetery in Middleburgh, NY. More than thirty years have gone by. I cannot talk about it without choking up, tears beginning to flow and be incapable of continuing a conversation about it

There is a regular reader of the stories and poems posted on Ourecho who lost a teen aged son to a tragic accident. It happened many years ago. That person will tell you there has been no closure. His remains were buried too, but no closure has been derived from it, nor will there ever be.

There are millions of people who have lost loved ones. I am sure they will tell you there is no closure. It does not matter whether the remains are recovered, whether or not the details of the death are known,. And if they died due to someone’s wrong doing, it does not matter if they are punished or not, because there is still no closure, nor will there be.

The people in the media who routinely say that are saying it because they don’t know what else to say, and everyone else is saying it. Maybe some of them actually believe it, but if they do they are wrong!

I for one, wish they stopped doing it. It is like a little knife in my side every time I hear it. I also think they are giving false hope to the people who mourn losing someone in a tragedy. I don’t believe such hope should be given. Hope it may be, but it is still false and will hurt even more in the long run, no matter how well intended.

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