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Story ID:2678
Written by:Frederick William Wickert (bio, link, contact, other stories)
Story type:Musings, Essays and Such
Location:Anywhere Texas/all 50 USA
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A young man joined the Navy. He served in the Navy and was in the Gulf War. He served with distinction during that war and was welcomed home to Texas, a local hero.

He became a civilian and part of the society of the town where he lived. He was gainfully employed and was a good employee. He was a good law-abiding citizen.

He became ill and suffered from a heart problem. He was awaiting a heart to become available for a heart transplant. He got a serious infection and died. He was 46 years old.

He and his family were all members of the church and worshiped regularly as a part of the congregation. His family made arrangements for a memorial service for him. The service was supposed to be held this morning, but was not.

It seems that church hierarchy learned that the man was gay. He had a partner whom he lived with. His partner was also a he. The church hierarchy informed his family last night they could not have the memorial service in their church because the church does not accept the lifestyle he lived.

I fully understand the church probably has every right to refuse to have a service for anyone at any time. I do not understand why any church exercises that right.

When I learned of this, all I could think of was when onlookers were going to stone a woman for being a prostitute. Jesus said, “Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.” Then he began writing sins in the sand. Those who held stones dropped them and turned away until there were none of them left. All of them knew they too had sinned in one way or another. Jesus then told the woman, “You are forgiven. Go and sin no more.”

This is allegedly a Christian church. If so, I ask, why do they not follow Christ? He, I believe, intended to teach us forgiveness – not retribution.

The Bible tells us, “Judge ye not, that ye may also be judged.” Are they not judging this man? Is it not a direct violation of the will of Christ to do so? Do they not proclaim themselves to be a Christian church?

I am not in agreement with the gay lifestyle. I personally find it repugnant. I never allow myself to hate anyone for it. It is not mine to say how they live. I am also aware the Bible says, “Vengeance is mine, sayeth the Lord.” Why, then, does a church that claims to be Christian, wreak vengeance on the family of the deceased for the lifestyle of the deceased?

It seems to me that the church in question needs to do a lot of soul searching. They need to read the Bible and re-educate themselves on the teachings of Christ, if they will be claiming to be a Christian church.

There are many sins we were commanded not to commit. There are many sins condemned by Christ. Judging others is one of those sins. In one of the more recent translations of the Bible can be found a passage that says, “Take the board out of your eye before worrying about the splinter in another’s eye.” I believe that is just another way of saying that before one begins to worry about the sins of another, they should first tend to their own sins.

Who are we to set ourselves up in judgment of another and their sins? Who are we to punish the family or the loved ones of someone who has passed away, for what we deem to be the sins they committed during their life?

Maybe I’m wrong, and I have no doubt that many will think so, but it seems to me the refusal of this church to allow a memorial service for a departed soul, regardless of what sins they may have committed, is unchristian. I find it hypocritical of any Christian church to do so.

Perhaps I am judging when I shouldn’t, but I believe the actions of this church are in direct opposition to the teachings of Christ.


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